Happy Spring

Good day to all of you that read my blog! Spring is trying to spring here. It just snowed a week or so ago. A year ago, I had a hip replacement. I'd put it off for 3 decades, but I could put it off no longer. The pain was excruciating and I had such horrible arthritis that my hip just looked like a puff of smoke. Like a magic trick had just been performed and the magician had disappeared. I was scared to take this journey without my dear husband. I had to put my trust in some of my friends. I didn't know if I could rely on these people but I didn't have much choice. Looking back I could have gone to a rehab center, but I didn't feel comfortable doing that. I'm not a big fan of the medical system. I had asked a friend to take care of my animals while I was gone. And he happily agreed. My dogs know and love him, so I knew he would be safe. I had my surgery and went to another friend's house to recover. Things went relatively smoothly for about 2 weeks, and then I couldn't get a hold of the person taking care of my dogs and cats. I was not physically ready to go home but I knew that I had to. Fortunately I did. The animals had no water and I had 2 new litters of kittens. It was slow getting all of the animals water, but I got it done and everyone was happy to see me. I was so grateful to be back home, in my own space. I've been doing physical therapy for my hip since I got home. And I have progressed immensely. I'm impatient so I wish I was further along, but I have come a very long way. I've had to ask for help, which I'm not great at. It's been a good lesson in taking better care of myself and perfecting my ability to rest. I'm happy that I got my hip replaced. And I am sober today partly because of the surgery. I was originally supposed to have surgery in January. I was drinking too much, and the doctor was afraid that I'd bleed out. Also my ex was still here, and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have been safe. I began to decrease my amount of drinking after my ex moved out. I had to. It's strange how all of the things that occurred would lead me to recovery, after many years of attempting to get sober. They agreed to do surgery only after I agreed to stop drinking. I had my last drink on March 25th, 2024 and 2 days later I had my hip surgery. I was scared and unsure how everything would go. Here I am, after a year, able to do more of the work that off grid life demands. I have less pain and my limp is improving. And oddly enough, everything worked out. This experience showed me who I could rely on and who I couldn't. I showed myself that I'm brave and I can rely on myself. It's still a balancing act to ensure that I don't overdo it or hurt myself. Sometimes life doesn't happen like we want it to, but we get to decide what we want our life to look like. It's never too late to make better decisions for ourselves. Happy spring to you all, Ceeeej 

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